Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Revised and Updated)

Have you lost sight of yourself while addressing the needs of others? Is someone else's problem your problem? This revised and updated edition explores codependency—the pattern of losing oneself in the name of helping another person. If you've become absorbed in a loved one's self-destructive behavior, you may recognize yourself in this book. Melody Beattie examines how codependency develops and how to break free from its hold. The core insight: you are powerless to change anyone but yourself, and caring for yourself is where healing begins. The book includes personal reflections, exercises, and instructive stories from Beattie's own life and her work counseling others. It offers practical guidance on breaking old patterns, maintaining healthy boundaries, and finding a path toward healing and freedom. This revised edition adds a new chapter on trauma and anxiety, topics Beattie felt needed to be addressed within the context of codependency. The book has sold over 7 million copies globally.