The Opposite of Settling: How to Get Everything You Want Out of Love and Life Without Losing Your Spark

Case Kenny, host of the podcast New Mindset, Who Dis? and author of That's Bold of You, offers guidance on finding a romantic partnership that enhances rather than diminishes your life. The book addresses common frustrations with modern dating: confusion, complexity, and overwhelming rules and expectations. Kenny combines practical mindfulness, evidence-based research, and optimism to help readers build relationships that feel empowering and expansive. The book provides tools to navigate contemporary dating with confidence, recognize connections that elevate your life, and release fear-based dating habits. Kenny introduces the concept of "settling up"—the opposite of "settling down"—as a framework for relationships where both partners feel independent, vibrant, and fulfilled together. The Opposite of Settling emphasizes finding a love that offers clarity, creates shared adventures, and allows you to discover more of yourself in the process. It focuses on building partnerships where both people feel genuinely chosen and compatible.